A Real Pastorâ€™s Wife Responds to TLCâ€™s â€œThe Sisterhoodâ€, Episode 3 and 4
Episode 3 was a shocker as we learned Tara was an ex-adulterer and she was bold enough to write it down on a cardboard poster for all of Atlanta to see. Would she have shared if she was a current First Lady of a church? The cardboard poster to declare Godâ€™s deliverance on the street as a tool of evangelism was an awesome idea and I applaud the Sisters for participating and True Entertainment for not editing out of the show.
The conversation at the table in Episode 4 may not have helped Delana Rutherford. Dominiqueâ€™s apparent disgust with Delanaâ€™s use of the word â€œplantationâ€ to describe her home as â€œThe Rutherford Plantationâ€ seems to have hit a nerve. However, this instance illustrates covert racism, inexcusable ignorance, and unexplainable anger which is still alive and well in our society, even within our Christian circles.Â I am beginning to wonder if this conversation at Delanaâ€™s home was the â€œbeginning of the endâ€ for the Rutherfords to participate in the show since their church, Worship with Wonders is filled with minority members. If you notice, the Rutherfords are not seen in the showâ€™s current promotions and are not participating in interviews. In my Rodney KingÂ voice, â€œCanâ€™t we all get along?â€
During an interview, Taraâ€™s husband, Dr. Brian Lewis, revealed the Rutherfordâ€™s pulled out of participating in the show mid-season. I guess Delanaâ€™s â€œGreat White Hopeâ€ character decided this relationship wasnâ€™t worth saving.Â Perhaps losing minority members in their church over the word, â€œplantation,â€ and its uses wasnâ€™t worth it either.
My Hopes and Encouragements
I had hoped this show would illustrate the lives of pastorâ€™s wives and their relationship with their churches; however it is more focused on the wives relationship with each other.
I do hope though â€œThe Sisterhoodâ€ evolves to discuss the relationship between the clergy wife and the Church which it has failed to do thus far.
After watching the show, a new pastorâ€™s wife may be highly discouraged about forging relationships with other pastorâ€™s wives, but the best part of being a pastorâ€™s wife is bonding with the other wives who share the same passion for Christ. So be encouraged, all is not lost.
Food for Thought
Every week TLCâ€™s reality show â€œThe Sisterhoodâ€ continues to evolve. Episodes 3 and 4 display a group of women struggling to find unity beyond the four walls of the church. Let me be honest and say most Senior Pastorâ€™s Wives do not have time to meet and chat the way these ladies do on the show.
However, is the show really about Senior Pastorâ€™s wives or about women who desire to be Senior Pastorâ€™s wives? Stay tuned for more of my two cents next week and watch The Sisterhood on Tuesdays 8pm (CST) on the TLC network.
Kimberley N. Yancy aka Mikasenoja is author of 2008 bestseller â€œConfessions of a Preacherâ€™s Wifeâ€ (Urban Christian).Â She currently resides in Houston, TX and serves as Director of Ministries of New Vision Baptist Church in Dickinson, TX,, where her husband serves as Senior Pastor.Â [email protected]