Recipe For Love: Tips & Lessons From The Neelys! (GT Connext)
In the May/June 2012 issue of Gospel Today, we profiled Pat & Gina Neely among one of our 2012 â€œItâ€ Couples for the passion they exude and live by, on and off-screen.Â The Neelys had so much insight to share about how to make love (and business) work, we had to extend some of it to the web!
Grab the May/June 2012 issue of Gospel Today, and check out some of their extra tips and tidbits below!
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- Communicateâ€¦ really break down and talk, tell a person how you feel.
- People grow differently, but you donâ€™t have to grow apart. In fact, if youâ€™re not growing, I have a problem with that. Life is all about it. Thatâ€™s why we have challengesâ€”theyâ€™re not supposed to paralyze you; theyâ€™re supposed to help you grow.
- Whether running a business or having a successful marriage, you have to communicate, listen to your spouseâ€¦ and do that without having to have a response for her.Â When sheâ€™s saying something she feels, you have to shut up and be prepared to not have a quick response. Listen to what sheâ€™s saying, then take the time to give a real response.
- Donâ€™t ever use the â€˜Dâ€™ word. That doesnâ€™t come up even in our deepest anger. Divorce is not an optionâ€”it canâ€™t be. You have to be committed to getting through it.
My favorite trait…
Q: Gina, what’s your favorite trait of Pat’s?
A: Pat is very consistent. You can time your watch to him. If Pat says heâ€™s going to do something, heâ€™s going to do it. I appreciate that because you only really have your word. If you say youâ€™re going to do something, you need to carry it through.
Also, heâ€™s very loyal. Iâ€™m a Bonnie & Clyde type of chick. Iâ€™m ride-or-die. Be loyal to me and Iâ€™m loyal to you.
Q: Pat, how about you?
A: Sometimes the thing that you like most about a person can be the same thing that, at times, irks you the most. Iâ€™ve always said that she is outspoken, fun to be around, but also very emotional about how she feels. She will speak and talk about anythingâ€”she doesnâ€™t hold anything back in terms of expressing herself. It was such a shock when we first got back together. I had dated other girls over the years and never knew where they were coming from. They would hold certain things back because of fear about how I would feel.
But whether itâ€™s with me, with our producers, on stage, or even talking to our children, Gina is very honest and sheâ€™ll say exactly whatâ€™s on her mind. Sometimes, itâ€™s the thing I love the most and sometimes itâ€™s the thing I hate the most! (laughs)