Love Is As Love Does
One of the great quotes from that wonderful social prophet, Forrest…Forrest Gump is, â€œLove is as love does.â€ Another potent quotable comes from an enduring song of the mid-60s popular culture: â€œWhat The World Needs Now Is Love.â€ The song confirmed a lot about the perception of love in todayâ€™s society. The lyricsâ€”â€œWhat the world needs now is love, sweet love, itâ€™s the only thing that thereâ€™s just too little ofâ€â€”notably, described love as vitalâ€”something the world â€œneeds.â€ Love was also described as pleasant to the tasteâ€”â€œsweetâ€; additionally, it was said to be of insufficient supplyâ€”â€œitâ€™s the only thing that thereâ€™s just too little of.â€
After teaching a powerful lesson about perfect unity, joy and love, Jesus said to his disciples:
â€œIâ€™ve told you these things for a purpose: that my joy might be your joy, and your joy wholly mature. This is my command: Love one an- other the way I loved you. This is the very best way to love. Put your life on the line for your friends. You are my friends when you do the things I command you. Iâ€™m no lon- ger calling you servants because servants donâ€™t understand what their master is thinking and plan- ning. No, Iâ€™ve named you friends because Iâ€™ve let you in on every- thing Iâ€™ve heard from the Father. (John 15:11-15, The Message Bible)
You have undoubtedly been in â€œloveâ€ before. Maybe it was a relationship with a parent, a sibling, a son or daughter, a spouse or even a love inter- est. Maybe it ended badly. Perhaps there was a separation caused by death, divorce or a decision to leave home. Our percep- tions of what love is and does often are â€œcoloredâ€ by our experiences. Too many of us make the mistake of measuring and defining love by what we have seen, tasted and felt. Negative perceptions can become limiting realities.
Most of our love experiences have been shallow; some may have been inap- propriate. You might have experienced in- fatuation (passion without commitment), or lust (desire for sexual pleasure outside the commitment of marriage). Perhaps
you originally thought youâ€™d found true love but later found out that it wasnâ€™t. This season, letâ€™s change our out- look, expectation and demonstration of love. Letâ€™s reject imperfect love and set our sights higher. Jesus said, â€œLove one another the way I loved you. This is the very best way to love. Put your life on the line for your friends.â€
There are several types of love. In 1973, a man named John Lee explored love in a book he wrote (Colours of Love: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving). He identified/defined six types of love:
â€œEROS â€“ a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love,
LUDUS â€“ a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest,
STORGE â€“ an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity (kindred to Philia),
PRAGMA â€“ love that is driven by the head, not the heart; undemonstrative,
MANIA â€“ highly volatile love; obsession; fueled by low self-esteem,
AGAPE â€“ selfless altruistic love; spiritual; [parental] love.â€
The noted Christian author, C. S. Lewis, stated that agape is â€œthe highest level of love known to humanityâ€”it is a selfless love, a love that is passionately committed to the well-being of another.â€
When youâ€™re committed to the â€œwell-beingâ€ of another, there are things you do and things you donâ€™t do. Apostle Paul defined how this agape love behaves in 1 Cor. 13: 4-7:
â€œLove is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hope- ful, and endures through every circumstance.â€ (NLT)
If youâ€™ve been in a â€œloveâ€ relation- ship that includes conquest, selfishness and obsession, rather than patience,
kindness, encouragement, sacrifice, support and commitment, itâ€™s time for a healthy choice and a healthy change. What the world needs, what you and I need, and what God ordained and ex- emplified is true love. Donâ€™t allow your- self to believe that someone loves you â€œbutâ€ he or she is just trying to â€œwork throughâ€ his or her issues (or some oth- er sorry excuse). Actions speak louder than words! Love is a verb!
Make up your mind to â€œloveâ€ right and to be loved â€œright.â€ Start today and start with God! Accept His love; learn to love as He loves and donâ€™t allow yourself to â€œsettleâ€ for less. God will love you rightâ€” even if a parent, child, sibling or â€˜loverâ€™ didnâ€™t or doesnâ€™t. Then move forward.
Love your children. Maybe you didnâ€™t know how to show them love before, but start now. Tell them that youâ€™re ready to start again and get it rightâ€”show them patience, kindness, encouragement, re- spect and care. Love means dealing with themâ€”and chastening them (Heb. 12:6, Rev. 3:19)â€”even when itâ€™s challenging.
Training, equipping and preparing your children emotionally, spiritually and financially is essential! Invest now and you wonâ€™t spend time regretting later.
Love your friends. Develop healthy agape friendships with other ma- ture Christians. Encourage each other through the word of God. Thereâ€™s no better blessing than a brother or sister (natural or spiritual) who will take time to pray with and for you.
Love your spouse. Lift up your spouse or potential spouse to God and realign your relationship with the soundness of Biblical truth. (Love â€œrejoices whenever the truth wins out.â€) Maybe your marriage or relationship has been a competition or a struggle because of finances or other pres- sures, or perhaps you havenâ€™t been deal- ing in truth according to Godâ€™s word. Itâ€™s time to find/create/commit to the love that comes from honest communication; forgiveness; humility and submission.
Remember, â€œLove is as love does.â€ And true love â€œnever gives up, never los- es faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.â€ Now, as Forrest would say, â€œthatâ€™s all I have to say about that!â€
God Bless You!